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I’ve never considered myself a conventional person, and though I didn’t try to break tradition with my wedding, it just kind of happened.
I found out that I failed a lot in holding true to traditional weddings, but it didn’t seem to be a big deal to most. If you’re thinking about doing things different at your wedding, I say go for it. In the end, the only thing that matters is what you want.
Here are some ways we broke common wedding traditions.
No garter toss.
I could care less about garter tosses, but that’s not why we didn’t do it. It was a matter of dress design. There was no way Mike was going to be able to lift my dress and pull a leg garter off without being awkward and ridiculous. We opted out. Plus, we didn’t want to spend additional money on a garter.
No bouquet toss.
Since we weren’t doing a garter toss, we decided to scrap the bouquet toss as well. However, our DJ said that a lot of people do “Anniversary dances” now in lieu of a toss because it’s still something fun for guests.
An anniversary dance is where all the married couples hit the dance floor during a slow song and the DJ goes up the number of years people could be married. The couple who has been married the longest is given the bride’s bouquet. I thought that sounded awesome, and it was! Everyone loved it!
No old, blue, new, etc.
I just didn’t have the time or patience for it, and since my family really isn’t into weddings, no one put themselves out there to help me attain these things. I’m not upset about it.
We wrote our own vows.
Mike and I both have a knack for writing, so we knew without question we would write our own vows. We wanted to make personal promises to each other, ones that reflected who we are and what we wanted our marriage to become. Our guests loved them.
We had cupcakes.
To save on money, we chose cupcakes over a traditional wedding cake. Plus, I wanted my reception to be different than others. Cupcakes are fast becoming the norm based on their cost effectiveness, but they’re far from a tradition yet.
No groom’s cake.
This is another item that came down to expense. We didn’t want a bunch of cake leftover, and we didn’t have the money to splurge on an extra “fun” cake. Plus, Mike really didn’t care about it. Some people commented on the lack of this item, but once we explained we didn’t want a bunch of wasted cake, they agreed with our decision.
We had a first glance.
We chose to do a first glance for several reasons. Based on our time frames, it worked better for our day. Plus, Mike and I are emotional beings. We wanted to have those first moments of our day together to take each other in. I wanted him to be the first person to see me in my dress and feel comfortable enough to let his emotions go, rather than up on stage in front of everyone. (Even though we both cried big time during our ceremony.)
We wore our rings before we got married.
Is this weird? We don’t know. We don’t care. Mike wanted to wear his ring right when we purchased it, so he did. Once my wedding bands were soldered , I couldn’t bear the thought of not wearing it. Nobody questioned us, but some people did laugh at us. We didn’t even care.
No receiving line.
I’m an introvert. I wasn’t about to hug everyone at my wedding. Plus, we had a smaller wedding and I met most of my guests the night before. Receiving lines are on their way out. It just didn’t make sense for us to do one, and I would have hated it.
I think those are the only things we did differently. Is there anything you want to do differently when your wedding comes along? Let’s compare!