Checking In / September 2020

The backyard

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I am coming to you live from my backyard. The photo above is a few days old, but I can assure you – Motley and I are in the exact same spots doing the exact same thing we do every day we have off. It’s a simple life we live.

I just wanted to check in here because that’s about all I ever feel like doing these days with this space. I’m not very active on social media anymore, so this is one of the few ways my readers can know what’s going on around here.

Home Life

I haven’t stopped loving my home since I bought it. However, I am noticing the little things that might give me worries later on. I’ve also been fully baptized into glories of homeownership now that I’ve purchased termite prevention.

I’m not sure if you’ve ever purchased termite protection/prevention, but it is expensive. I shopped around a bit and ended up going with a place that I feel confident in for the costs. The guy who did my estimate was a grandfatherly type and did not make me feel belittled or dumb as a woman buying termite protection for the first time. I appreciate that.

Side note: If I ever feel that I am being treated differently because I’m a woman, I will walk out and not purchase your goods, or I will make sure I am the one who gets the steal. I’ve done it with cars, mechanics, and furniture.

In the end, the initial price to place the Sentricon (did you know that there are two types of termite treatments and each have their own pros and cons?) totaled $850. It is $300 every year after for maintenance. I can’t even stand to look at those prices, but I am so glad I did it and have zero regrets. I also budgeted for that, so it came out perfectly.

Other things I’ve been doing:

  • Fertilized my front lawn because it was looking sad and sparse, and wow! What a difference it has made!
  • Explored my attic, only to find that what I thought was just a burnt out bulb from the inspection is actually a dead light socket. There is still one working light in the attic that is quite sufficient, so I’m putting that issue in the back of my mind until… forever probably.
  • Still push-mowing my yard. I can do it all in one day now. (Shows you how out of shape I was.)
  • Working on the front landscaping. If you read my Twitter thread about the weird interactions I’ve had with my divorced, 48 yr old man neighbor, you’ll know that I ripped up all the bricks around the front and pulled all the weeds. I’m waiting to buy new landscaping bricks because 1) I’m bleeding money because of all the things I want to do with this place and 2) the holidays are coming and did I mention I’m bleeding money!? Needless to say, it’s looking a unkempt at the moment.
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On the topic of money, let’s expand.

I am constantly torn between blowing $5000 on my credit card and never buying another piece of furniture until my debt is paid off. I know what the right answer is. You don’t have to tell me or scold me. I will say though – $5000 would probably outfit this place exactly as I want it – honestly. Maybe I’ll do it and not tell any of you so you can’t keep me accountable.

Speaking of accountability – I wrote a financial update a couple?? of weeks ago and things are actually going really well here – if I can manage to control myself with the furniture.

Some insights on the new home – my electric and water/sewer/trash bills have been reasonable. Electric at the hottest time of the year was $150, and it’s already decreased to $138 with the recent cooldown. I think I can get it below $100 by November. Water/sewer/trash runs about $40-50 a month – also reasonable considering everything you get.


My body feels like it’s constantly breaking down and I never feel quite right anymore. I’ve decided to ignore all the signs/symptoms of everything because I don’t want people to think I’m a hypochondriac (which I probably am). I’ve been having numbness/tingling on my right arm/hand and throughout my leg. It’s probably a disc or insanity. I’m also having the stomach issues again for what I can only assume are ulcers that flared up with recent stressors.

Am I just getting older or am I crazy? Or both? The point is – I’m tired of trying to figure out what’s wrong with me and instead just focusing on what I can control. None of these things are affecting my ability to function or live – so I feel like I just have to live with them as annoyances. Do you know what I mean? Anyone else experience this?

The good thing about all these weird health problems is that it has driven me back to my faith. I’ve been doing all the things that a typical scared person would do and returned to God. It’s not that I ever left Him; I just hadn’t called in a while. You know how it is.

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Anyways, I have found an immense amount of peace in that, and every time I feel a weird twinge or pain – I just focus on all the good things He has promised after this, and then it doesn’t feel so scary.

I apologize if this kind of talk makes you uncomfortable on the blog, but I can’t not include it here because it’s a big part of my life again.

Nurse Life

Work has been good. I am constantly overwhelmed by what I am expected to know and still waiting to get chewed out by a doctor for screwing something up. I thought yesterday might be my indoctrination, but the doc was very nice and explained everything to me – so now I’m just a little wiser and less stressed as a new nurse with that particular procedure.

Overall, I’m happy with my progress. Our census at my hospital is low enough where I typically have time to do a little research on the care I’m providing and what meds are for what issue.

I don’t feel like I’m overworked, though my peers might tell you otherwise. haha Maybe I’m just “bright side” type when it comes to work, but I’m happy and looking forward to growing.

Final thoughts

That’s what is going on down here in the Mississippi bayou. Mots and I are doing well and living our best lives, I guess. The worst part has been dealing with the virus and wondering if my partner will be able to visit here from Italy in the coming months. I’m not sure how it will go down, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed. As you know, we haven’t seen each other since January of this year.

Anyways, I’m so excited for fall and the weather here is finally turning a bit, so that has also made my mood lighter and brighter.

How are you all holding up?

One thought on “Checking In / September 2020

  1. i’m glad you’re enjoying the new place. home ownership is pretty expensive i’ve found even with 2 people paying the bills. as a person of non-faith i appreciate your approach to writing about it for you. i always thought writing honestly was the best policy no matter how you live. that dog looks pretty content.

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