If there’s one thing I’ve learned in 24 years, it’s to let go of your past. For many of my most formative years (age 18-23), I allowed bitterness and hate to guide my way through life. I won’t get into gory details of what happened, but I did some things I’m not proud of, and had some wrong things done to me, causing me to despise certain people I had encountered along the way.
I have hurt people, and I have been hurt, and I allowed those feelings from my past to overshadow what was happening in my present. If you’ve been where I’ve been, you know that bitterness and malice can destroy a heart and your life. It’s exhausting when your past haunts you every day. It makes life impossible to enjoy. I allowed it to paralyze me, impacting every decision I made, from the clothes I chose to wear to the colleges I chose to attend to the people I chose to spend time with.
It is not worth it.
Allowing past events or people that have hurt you in some way to guide your future is a dangerous road. You will never be good enough. You will never feel fulfilled. Nothing you do will change what happened. One thing you can do is change. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Let go. Holding on to past regrets is a poison.
I know it is not easy to let go. I harbored those emotions for years, and it took a new city, new job, new friends, and a new perspective to even touch the surface of what I had been harboring in my soul.
Even though I am not completely healed, I am far better than I was two years ago.
If I could give one piece of advice, it would be to let go of the past. It’s not worth ruining your future over.