If your wedding goes as planned, it’s going to be one of the most magical days of your entire life. My wedding was near perfect, and there’s very little I would have changed, but I did learn a lot about life and relationships as the day progressed.
Chances are your own wedding will be a learning experience too. Believe it or not, your special day is going to be an eye-opener.
It’s time for some truth-bombs. Read on to see what I mean.
1. Your relationship moves to a deeper level.
I don’t know why everyone says that your life ends when you get married. For Mike and me, nothing has changed in our life except our connection. Getting married pushed our relationship to a level we had never experienced before. There’s an added sense of security. It’s hard to describe because I felt secure in our relationship before, but now it feels like we are bound for life and nothing will tear us apart.
God’s intentions have never been for divorce. Maybe this is why marriage is called holy matrimony. God knew the power of marriage because he created it. On your wedding day, be prepared. If you sincerely love one another, you will feel a change the moment you become man and wife.
2. You find out who your friends are.
This is the sad part about weddings. It shows you who actually cares and who is just there for free alcohol. You may be surprised by the number of people who RSVP and do not show-up. No phone call, card, or text. They just don’t come. It’s sad, but you have to get over it.
People are jerks. They’re flaky. You’ll learn fast that as you age, true friends are hard to come by. They must be cherished and chosen wisely.
3. You find out which family members actually care.
This is a really difficult truth. Some of your family members care only about themselves and being seen. Some won’t give you anything except their presence. Some of your family will cause problems because that’s just how they are. Some will get jealous because in the end, every wedding is a competition – especially with women. Don’t let your family’s behavior ruin your day. It’s about you. You do what you want to do and have a good time!
4. You realize how much you could have saved.
If you paid for your own wedding, you will inevitably see areas where you could have saved. The reception is the worst. When you realize how many people didn’t show and how many plates of food you could have left out, as well as having a smaller cake, less flowers, etc, you’ll want to cry. The savings will be all around you and there’s nothing you can do about it. Be prepared and let it go now. Mike and I probably could have saved $1000, but how did we know that 20 of our key guests weren’t going to show?
We didn’t, and you won’t know either. My tip for you: Cut at least 10 people off your final list, even if they RSVP’d. Chances are, at least 10 won’t show. Cut even more if you’re having a wedding with more than 100 guests.
5. You’ll want the day to end sooner than you thought.
Your wedding day is going to be fabulous, and when it begins, you may never want it to end. By mid-reception, you will be so tired of people wanting your attention. You’ll be sick of kids running around nearly ripping your dress off. Whatever is happening, you’ll probably be tired of it. Your feet will hurt, you’ll be sweaty and feel gross, and if you drink too much… well, that just makes matters worse. Don’t be surprised if you want to go to your honeymoon suite and take a bubble bath, then hit the hay.
Like I said, just prepare yourself for these things and then it won’t seem so bad. You can definitely avoid some of these things if you plan, but most of it will simply be a “go with the flow and cry later” situation. Good luck and have a great day!
Any other things you should be prepared for on your wedding day?